Ask a
Better Question by Katie McClain
Have
you ever asked yourself a question like this?
What
did I do wrong to deserve this?
When
you ask yourself this kind of question, you get a whole lot of negative
answers. Humans ask themselves questions a lot.
Just
stop. Listen. What are you asking yourself right now? Or, listen first thing in
the morning. Hopefully, you ask yourself something like: "How can I make
today a great day?" But you may be asking yourself a question that isn't
helpful, like the one above.
You are
asking yourself questions every day.
When
you ask yourself any question in your mind or out loud, your brain answers it
whether you realize it or not. Negative questions, get you answers that are
negative thoughts which create negative feelings.
Here
are some examples of questions you might be asking yourself
(or may have asked in the past).
Why
can’t I lose weight?
What is
my problem?
Why
didn’t I do better with ______?
When
will my life be better?
Why
doesn’t my kid behave?
When
will I get out of debt?
What
questions are you asking yourself?
How
will know if the questions you’ve listed are not powerful? Consciously answer
them and then check in with your body to see how you feel.
If the
answers to your questions make you feel awful, then you are asking the wrong
questions.
When
you ask yourself a powerful, positive question like, “How can I make losing
weight fun?”, your answer comes as a thought that feels good. We are mostly not
aware of the answers, but when you intentionally ask great questions:
Your
brain will get busy helping you create powerful answers.
These
powerful answers that your brain creates, help you get a life full of amazing
results.
Below
are more of the negative question examples from above along with ideas for how
to turn them into more powerful questions.
Negative
Question: What is my problem?
New
& Improved: What is great about me?
Negative
Question: Why didn’t I do better with ______?
New
& Improved: How can I improve in this area?
Negative
Question: When will my life be better?
New
& Improved: What is perfect about my life today?
Negative
Question: Why doesn’t my kid behave?
New & Improved: How can I support my kid’s strengths?
Negative
Question: When will I get out of debt?
New
& Improved: What small action can I take today toward paying off my debt?
Start
your day by asking yourself a better question and you will be amazed at the
life you create and how easy it starts to feel. Here’s an new and improved
question to replace the question this article began with:
Negative
Question: What did I do wrong to deserve this?
New
& Improved: What can I learn or how can I grow from this?
